It's been over 40 years since the Roe vs. Wade decision and you would think Americans would have other things to concern themselves with than abortion.
Now, first off, I don't fully agree with abortion, but my opinions don't really matter. I'm a guy. I've never had to deal with menstrual periods, hormones, mood swings, etc. I've never had to worry about getting pregnant, being on the pill because I know my partner doesn't have contraception, miscarriages, labor pains, and so much more that is the beauty and wonder of life.
Abortion shouldn't be used as a Get Out of Jail Free card but sometimes it's necessary, such as in the case of rape or incest. There are some cases in which women have taken medication and it's affected the fetus that it will die in the womb or be stillborn. There's also cases in which we've had to take into account the health of the women. Dying during childbirth was a common death at one point and it is still risky for women as it can cause heart problems or even a stroke.
The issue of abortion is back in our face this week because of the Planned Parenthood ordeal. Depending on who you talk to, it's not as bad as it seems or worse than the Holocaust, the Trail of Tears, Khmer Rouge and Rwanda genocides all rolled into one.
Sen. James Lankford, a Republican from Oklahoma, said he has the right to lecture women on abortion because his wife got pregnant and he has had to deal with the whole birth process. Well, whoop-de-do. Congratulations, Sen. Lankford! You want a cookie because you weren't standing out in the corridor outside the hospital room smoking cigars?
Lankford is only responsible for the births of his children. But he has no right to lecture other women on the matter. This is like people who have an opinion on military affairs because they have a family member in the armed services.
Men, you don't have any room to lecture women on abortions. Even if you're a OB-GYN doctor, you don't have the right.
If you get a woman pregnant, it's now your responsibility to do what you can to provide for the child and be a father. If you didn't want to get your woman pregnant, you should've wore a condom. Sorry, but it's like an insurance policy. She says she's on the pill, wear one anyway. If you have a problem buying condoms, pick a store that has self-checkout and buy it along with other items. No one is going to notice. And wouldn't you want strangers knowing you're getting some action.
Maybe if it's a marriage or serious relationship, a man may have a few suggestions, but raising a child is a life-long job and you got to know what you're getting into. Sad to say, having a baby looks nice in Facebook posts and glamour shots, but there's going to be a lot of problems down the road. You're a parent until the day you die. And your child will need you if they're 5 or 50.
A lot of unplanned pregnancies among couples happen. What also happens is rape?
And while anti-abortionists argue for adoption, it isn't that easy?
Forcing the victim of a rape, who may be a teenager or developmentally disabled, to spend thousands of dollars on medical bills, and to go through the emotions of pregnancy and child birth, just to give the child up like an old box of clothes dropping off at a charity is another crime in of itself. We still live in a sicked twisted society that looks badly at teen and single mothers despite the circumstances. What about a young woman who is already married to a loser who doesn't want children and they get pregnant anyway? He accuses her of being a slut and then turns into a deadbeat.
She has to get food stamps of welfare. Immediately, she's branded again. What happened? She was married. She wanted to start a family. It was the man who left her. She wanted to make it work. He didn't. So, who is blamed? Of course, the woman for being promiscuous and not cautious. It has happened. It happens all the time.
And let's look at adoption. All these God-fearing conservative Christians who are pushing for adoption instead of abortion reading to scoop these little Angels from Heaven in thine arms? No. Of course not. Especially, if they are non-white children.
Yes, look at all the white couples who adopt black or Hispanic/Latino children. You don't think these parents who are trying to do the right thing are shunned. A white woman with a non-white child. Yes, another welfare woman on food stamps, even if the mother holds down a good paying job and doesn't need any government handouts.
Adoption takes a lot of money, so you know the families adopting any children are well off.
And unfortunately, there are no orphanages left. Children are passed around from foster home to foster home and some of the foster parents abuse the children as they only want the money from the state. You have children, so young and impressionable, being moved from one environment to another and it's a recipe for disaster especially for a child who can't grasp why they're with a new set of parents in a different home.
Not to say this is any reason to have an abortion but that's not my choice. Sex can be enjoyable but like everything, it does have consequences. You can't go on a spending spree without first looking at your checkbook account.
So, what is the answer? We'll never have it.
For one, there isn't no correct answer. What works for one person may not work for another. You shouldn't criticize the rape victims who get pregnant who chose to either to get an abortion or to have the child. We don't know what that person is feeling. It's a personal matter and it shouldn't be a political matter.
I'd like to repeat that again. It shouldn't be a political matter, because that's all politicians use it as - talking points. They don't really care if you have as many children as the Duggards or know your abortion doctor on a first-name basis. Whatever gets them campaign donations and elected is what matters.
What we should be focusing on is educating young people so they don't get pregnant, keeping sexual predators away from teenage girls and woman, and stop, I repeat stop, shaming people who have children just because they don't fit your Leave it to Beaver idea of what a family should look like.
If you really believe children are a gift from God, then, treat them like it.
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